Dating and marriage is different than it was twenty years ago. In today’s
society, more than 50% of all marriages fail for one reason or another.
Just thinking about that makes “commitment” seem scary. It seems that when
relationships are faced with challenges, people quit trying. Dating is
more like a marathon, trying to date as many people as possible, instead
of taking time to get to know someone at a deeper level. For married
couples, divorce is not biased. Whether married for thirty years or eight
months, the outcome can be the same.
The fact is that relationships, whether dating or married, are hard.
Things do not always go perfectly, fighting does occur, and it takes a
100% commitment from both parties to make it a success. Often when people
break off a relationship, they feel as though something is missing. The
“spark” has gone, leaving one or both people feeling inadequate and
unfulfilled.
However, even though the odds are not very good, healthy, and long-lasting
relationships are definitely possible and proven by many people. Look at
Paul Newman and Joanne Woodard, Danny Devito and Rhea Perlman, or Nancy
and Ronald Regan. What secrets do they possess? The answer is that they
all work hard at their relationship. They made a decision of choosing to
love their mate rather than relying on the “warm and fuzzy” feelings,
which everyone knows will fade. By making love a choice you are making a
decision that even in the bad times, you stick it out.
Think of it like choosing a car. You pick out the make, model, year,
color, and features that you believe are best for you. After driving your
car for a couple of months, you realize that perhaps you should have
purchased a larger car, or that maybe the leather seats would have been
better, or on hot sunny days, the sunroof would have been nice. However,
it is now too late so you choose to keep your car and make it work. It is
the same for marriage. Not everything will be perfect and there will be
major obstacles to overcome but you have made your decision and now you
choose to make it work.
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